One time, I was having an off day, being really distracted and inattentive, and I was around people I didn’t know very well, so I went, “I’m sorry I’m really ADD right now..”
And they’re just like, “you know you really shouldn’t say that.”
And I’m just, “No I’m actually diagnosed with ADD.”
I find being corrected on the terms of my actual mental disorder is a lot more offensive than people who call their own inattentiveness ADD, without actually being diagnosed. But I guess in a perfect world, people wouldn’t use it as a general term, and then I wouldn’t be “corrected” when I use it accurately…
No planning. No timing. No caring. Just random.
That is how good friends decided to hang out, my friend. ;)
areu, thanks for hanging out with me today!!! We definitely had a great time!! We have to do this again!!!! >xD
awwww look at you~♥
I found this extremely trippy, weird supposedly psychological test, where they ask you to tie together these shapes and give them characteristics.
I just posted a few questions up. As you can see it’s really, really odd and slightly creepy.
At the end of the test they gave you a personality description based on your choices.
Surprisingly enough, I think this thing got me even though the questions got all nonsensical/abstract.
My diagnosis: Verbally and mentally fluid, you are refreshing and illuminating to those around you. This is occasionally somewhat discounted by the obvious pleasure that you take in exercising your mental acuity. Although generally peaceful you can often take a verbally aggressive tact in relations with the world, which can often be misunderstood by those around you. Innovative in the extreme, you can often think yourself right out of the correct answer to a given problem. Many times you are referred to as your own worst enemy. You tire very quickly of routine and so make poor clerks or administrative help. You also have no respect for authority and little patience for those you regard as inferior, most especially those in charge. Experimentation is your watchword and can occasionally lead to experience for its own sake and shallow decadence. Your thought can sometimes be scattered and disconnected.
Hello old and new followers!
Well I’m officially on summer break, meaning I’ll finally have some downtime. I’m excited to make this summer a busy one, though.
I’ve made myself a slightly aggressive to-do list.
hopefully I’ll be around here more, but I’m on my twitter more these days.
Also if you aren’t following it, I’ll be posting lots more art stuff on my art blog!
I have about 1,000 asks that just say “What on earth is happening?” So, let me do my best to tell you.
This week, a young woman came forward who dated Tom Milsom when she was sixteen. She made it clear that that relationship, which ended more than a year ago, was manipulative and exploitative. I talked to Tom about this and he confirmed that the relationship was inappropriate and he regretted it.
I was really angry about it and I released a statement saying as much. After that, I realized how powerful my voice was and was actually a little bit terrified by that. I realized that I had, for a lot of people, made myself seem like the judge and jury of who is a good and bad person and that really freaked me out. I am not an investigation unit, nor am I a court of law. Honestly, I’m still freaked out because I’m worried that, with this post, I’m still doing it.
The positive and supportive response to Olga’s story about Tom enabled some people to come forward anonymously saying that Alex Day had engaged in similar romantic relationships with them that were exploitative and even abusive.
After that happened, several accusations were posted about other YouTubers including Dan and Phil and Tyler Oakley. Those were soon proven to be entirely false and the people who posted them confirmed that they were just making stuff up. I want to reiterate that posting false accounts of abuse undermines the legitimate problems we’re facing and mocks the difficulty that victims face in coming forward and it is a terrible thing to do.
However, the posts about Alex were very credible. But then Alex issued a statement saying he had never engaged in such a relationship.
On a personal note, I then had absolutely no idea what to do. My ask box was 200 asks deep with people asking me to clear the situation up for them, or to publicly condemn Alex or to publicly support Alex. I’d set myself up (accidentally) to look like the omniscient knower of the YouTube community. I was super freaked.
After about a day passed, Alex issued a statement confirming that, in fact, he had been in those relationships and had constructed situations that pressured people into intimacy and had used a model of consent that he admitted was terrible which he referred to “only no means no” which is both extremely disrespectful and a recipe for enabling abuse.
For what it’s worth, my personal read on this situation is that Alex knew he had been shitty and manipulative, but he didn’t realize until the victims came out the extent of what he had done. That does not excuse what he did…the fact that he was so unthinking and irresponsible as to not even notice has its own brand of gross.
This probably goes without saying but I am both furious and saddened that people in my community would have these manipulative, unhealthy, and even abusive relationships. I do not know all of the details of these relationships, nor do I believe it is my place to know, but I have no doubt that Alex and Tom took advantage of people and knew what they were doing and I am so tired of being angry that now I’m just sad.
Thank you for the victims for coming forward and thank you to this entire community for upholding these values in a way that I don’t think any other community in the world would be able to.
If you are in an abusive relationship, or just think you might be, there is help to be had. Sometimes even realizing the nature of your relationship is difficult. And getting out can seem impossible. It is not.
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1.800.656.HOPE
This week has been pretty crappy, but it has made me so proud to work with Hank, John, and Alan, who agonised over every moment of every decision, and found themselves the arbiters of justice of the internet. I have so much respect for the survivors who have come forward, and everyone I know who is getting stuck in as much as they are able to tackle the problems endemic in our culture. Thanks for being awesome.
I had no idea this was even going on this week… This is so upsetting on so many levels.
I like how when I get busy and don’t have time for tumblr, I lose like 20 followers, but as soon as I start posting again I gain them back.
In the mean time I’m really busy with school so I’ll be on twitter mostly, aside from my casual reblog here and there.
so I was trying to do one of those “best of” things… it’s 9 months through and every single one of them are selfies…